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Don’t Worry, Be Happy.

In my line of business, I often have people ask me the number one thing I recommend for making a wedding day really special. Honestly, the best weddings aren’t about venues or decorations or food. A truly great wedding day starts with a happy bride and groom. I don’t care if you have a big ceremony, an intimate gathering, a simple celebration or a lavish five-star event, there is nothing more important than two people bursting with joy, love and laughter to ensure an amazing wedding day and picture perfect memories forever.

 

On the flip side of that, nothing can ruin a beautiful wedding faster than an unhappy couple…especially if we’re talking about an angry, upset bride. Not even an imported designer wedding dress can make that look good. As a wedding planner, part of my job is to take care of details, handle sticky situations and head-off problems that could cause an emotional bride to lose it on her big day…but I’m not a superhero. Sometimes things happen that are out of anyone’s control. My best advice? Roll with it. Try to take a deep breath, put on a smile and go with the flow while we do our best to fix things or find a plan B. Your guests will admire you for handling problems with grace and your positive attitude will be the thing people remember most.

 
Now I know that “smiling through the tears” is easier said than done, so I do have a few tips for helping brides avoid problems in the first place. I find that things usually go wrong due to poor communication, a lack of organization and unrealistic expectations.

 

1. When it comes to vendors, get everything in writing and make sure you double check the details. Don’t assume anything. Hiring a wedding planner like me makes this part super easy.

 

2. Be sure everyone involved in your wedding has a schedule and a list of expectations—what to wear, what to bring, when to be where. Make sure they have responded that they received the list and understand everything on it. How many wedding schedules have been sidetracked because someone didn’t get an email? You don’t want to know.

 
3. If you don’t hire a wedding planner, please surround yourself with people who are responsible and WANT to help you with things like decorating, setting up and tearing down. Give them precise lists of what you need done when. Draw pictures. Create diagrams. Be specific, or you will be disappointed.

 
4. Do not count on your wedding party to pitch in to help. This assumption causes a lot of problems at a lot of weddings. While their help is certainly appreciated—it shouldn’t be expected.

 
5. Don’t try to do everything yourself. You will end up exhausted and resentful. Let your family and friends know when you are feeling overwhelmed. They love you and will be happy to help.

 

6. Use words like Please and Thank You. Seriously. You don’t know how many stressed-out brides come off as demanding, ungrateful drill sergeants simply because they don’t use these magical words.

 
7. Remember, you might notice that an usher was a no-show and someone forgot to light the candles, but if you don’t make a big deal out of it, most people probably won’t even notice. Let it go.

 
8. Give yourself a pep talk (or have someone give you one). If you tend to react strongly to things, schedule a few moments before your wedding and before your reception to get your head in the right place. Think positive and know who you can count on to talk you off the wall. One quick change in attitude can make all the difference.

 
9. What is the point of this whole big crazy day? Marrying the guy you love! No matter what happens, at the end of the day, this is what it’s all about. Let’s keep things in perspective.

 
10. The most important thing you can do on your wedding day? SMILE. That’s it…and it doesn’t cost a thing.

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